As teachers kids come at us in groups. You remember them as sets, and individuals in sets. Every once in a while you get to interact with a set that stays with you. Today I got to say goodbye to one of those extraordinary, no, the most extraordinary group of young people I have gotten to know.
I am not their teacher, I am just a father of one of the kids in this Class of 2009. We live in a little town in northeastern Connecticut. It is a one school town where from grades K-8 there are about 185 kids. This was one of the largest classes of kids to ever come through the school with a total of 28 kids who graduated eighth grade 4 years ago. We send our kids to the next town over for high school and today they became a part of the Woodstock Academy Class of 2009.
Academically and athletically gifted, this crew from our little town kicked butt and took the lion's share of honors and awards bestowed in the graduation ceremonies. So many white National Honor Society stoles, so many honor society chords, so many of our town's kids called to the podium multiple times. And yet, beyond that, there is something extra in their collective character and moral fiber that made them stand out.
You know when you meet a person of integrity sometimes it just jumps out at you. It strikes a chord in you, you pause, you reflect, you take note to keep an eye on this one because something is happening here especially when it is a young person. This group is filled with such kids.
It is hard to put into words, but perhaps two stories from my own experience will help. I got to coach these kids in different sports at different ages. At age 8, the best male player on my team at the end of the fall season made a point to hang around at the end of the last huddle of the last game and stuck out his hand and said, "Mr. Sokoloski, thank you for coaching me." At that point in his career he was head and shoulders above 90% of the kids on the field and my "coaching" consisted of making sure he he got as many minutes as possible on the front line. But it was a lesson that I took to heart. At the end of every season, no matter what the sport, no matter what the level or record of the team, I make sure I hang around the last huddle and thank the coach for coaching my kid and I learned it from an 8 year old.
A second story. At one point when the kids had grown old enough to a play on single sex teams we fielded a town team of 9 girls in a league that played 7 vs 7. It was clear, there was not enough girls in a league where a typical team was about 13 girls and usually you had one or two out for various reasons. We should just break the team up and scatter the players to other teams in the league. We put it to the girls and they unanimously shot the idea down. We tried again. You know you will be running your tails off? You know nobody can miss a game? You know we are going to have to rotate through all positions just to get enough rest, you know everybody is going to be in goal? There was no choice for them. They were going to stay together and they did. And they ran their tails off, and they all played goal, and they all showed up except for two games where we played with 7 the whole game, rotating into goal for breaks (and they would have played with 6 if they had to).
They have hung together. Oh, sure they have friends from the other towns that feed into WA. But many are united in a teen church group, and well beyond the time when going out on Wednesday night for church and clubs is cool, they have endured, hardening the steely bonds they forged in grade school. Many of them don't attend the same church on Sunday as they worship with their families in their own denominations but they enjoy each other, they enjoy the Christian commnity, they respect each other and on Wednesday nights they celebrate the Bible and each other.
This is the time where speakers tell graduates to forge ahead, take the world by storm, imagine the possiblities, dream great dreams, shoot high and end up over the rainbow. I do not want this for them. I want to be selfish. I don't want them to wander. I want or maybe I need them to come back. Somehow, some way we produced this clutch of extrodinary chicks, and I want to turn my torch over to them.
In 5 or 10 years I want Rachel to be exhibiting her art in her local gallery with her work on one side and her grandfathers pen and ink, and water colors on the other. I want to Joe to be practicing medicine in partnership with his Dad. I want Keri to be sitting on the school board with the same clear thinking and moral certitude as her mother and grandmother. I want Ethan to be growing apples, strawberries, blueberries and pumpkins and his family's farm to go on forever. I want Robert to be designing and building the most energy efficient structures and still playing taps on Memorial Day. I want Ryan, and Kirby, and April, and Will, and Shawn, and Chris, and Chelsea and Luke, and all the rest to understand what a special time they have given us and how we yearn for them to pick up our torches and stay close by to keep this special place, special, for our grandchildren.
And most of all for my darling Katie, I want her back in a few years in a classroom, in a gym and on a field. And mostly in a third base coaches box, where she will bunt on the first pitch, her runners will explode off the bases, her catchers will call their own game, and her players will play their hearts out for her. Congrats, Katie